Think About It!
Call me old-fashioned, but I am appalled to see how young mother's dress around their pre-teen and teen sons.
They seem to do it without a thought - because it is normal, stylish and trendy - but, it should never be done without a thought.
Younger boys may not be drawn sexually to a woman's body, but they soon will be - and then they will have to look away from their own mothers or be sexually stimulated.
Boys, of all ages, have to deal with being sexually stimulated by TV, movies, female students and even their own teachers.
Are you that old-fashioned as to think that? Yes.
God made boys, and men, to admire and desire the female body.
This desire is normal and healthy when kept in balance and acted on wisely.
What is immodest? It is dressing in such a way that we do not show grace to the observer.
Maybe you haven't thought about that word in that way before.
Is the way you are dressing in front of your pre-teen or teen son showing him grace? Showing grace means to honor and favor to someone.
That is what I believe a mother should do.
She should dress in such a way as to honor and favor him as her son and not as just another male.
Skin tight jeans or leggings that show every inch of your lower body, or tops that are cut low or hang open and let your cleavage bulge out are NOT ways of showing grace to the observer - whether that observer is your son, male co-workers, neighbor men or any men you do not know.
For this article, though, I want to focus on immodesty being shown to our sons.
I am the mother of two grown boys - men, that are well-balanced and happily married.
Did how I dress when they were growing up help make them what they are today? Maybe and maybe not...
but, it certainly wasn't detrimental! My sons were, and are, open with me about such things as how they feel that certain clothing women wear is very disrespectful.
Take "apron" tops for instance.
They aren't as common now as a few years ago, but my oldest son's comment one time to me was: "do they have any idea how tempted we, as males, to just walk up and pull that thin little string? They would be completely topless if we did that!" It's not hard to show grace to your sons in how you dress.
It simply means giving some thought to what you put on.
This isn't some profound new teaching! You can still be trendy, stylish and look great with only a few minor changes.
Wearing shorts that are bit longer and looser.
Tops that cover us when we stand up and when we lean over.
Jeans or leggings paired with longer tops to cover our crotches and behinds.
Face it...
many, if not most, of us do not really have drop- dead gorgeous bodies to be showing every inch of anyway - now do we? Perhaps you do not feel you are "attractive" enough, or have a fit enough body, to be a sexual turn-on.
That is never the case.
Showing off cleavage is always immodest because it causes a male to have to look away or be uncomfortable with where he should be looking.
A male's eyes are always drawn to the soft full cleavage of a woman's breast - or even to that area even if there is no cleavage showing but the thought of breasts is put in their heads.
Let me give you an example of the last scenario.
I am a double-mastectomy survivor.
I followed up my mastectomies with reconstruction, so I do have "breasts" for all intents and purposes.
It used to make me very uncomfortable that when a man would find this out about me, the first place his eyes inadvertantlydarted was to my bust line! Then we would both be embarrassed and share some very awkward moments.
I have since realized they are not doing this to embarrass me - and I need to show grace to him by acting like I didn't notice and continue chatting as if nothing has happened.
He is embarrassed enough and I don't need to add to it.
Why does he do this? Because the idea of a woman's breasts has come up in conversation and he is subconsciously curious about what my "breasts" look like in clothes now that he knows I don't have the breasts I was born with.
If they are tempted to look at that area on me when I am not showing cleavage - how much more when there is cleavage.
Please, don't make the mistake of thinking that your sons are immune from such tendencies.
Show them grace by dressing modestly, it just takes some modifications...
and thought!
They seem to do it without a thought - because it is normal, stylish and trendy - but, it should never be done without a thought.
Younger boys may not be drawn sexually to a woman's body, but they soon will be - and then they will have to look away from their own mothers or be sexually stimulated.
Boys, of all ages, have to deal with being sexually stimulated by TV, movies, female students and even their own teachers.
Think about it...Really?! you may be asking.
are you depicting yourself as a sexual being to your sons? Do you want to add to that stimulation? Are you putting an immodest image before them?
Are you that old-fashioned as to think that? Yes.
God made boys, and men, to admire and desire the female body.
This desire is normal and healthy when kept in balance and acted on wisely.
What is immodest? It is dressing in such a way that we do not show grace to the observer.
Maybe you haven't thought about that word in that way before.
Is the way you are dressing in front of your pre-teen or teen son showing him grace? Showing grace means to honor and favor to someone.
That is what I believe a mother should do.
She should dress in such a way as to honor and favor him as her son and not as just another male.
Skin tight jeans or leggings that show every inch of your lower body, or tops that are cut low or hang open and let your cleavage bulge out are NOT ways of showing grace to the observer - whether that observer is your son, male co-workers, neighbor men or any men you do not know.
For this article, though, I want to focus on immodesty being shown to our sons.
I am the mother of two grown boys - men, that are well-balanced and happily married.
Did how I dress when they were growing up help make them what they are today? Maybe and maybe not...
but, it certainly wasn't detrimental! My sons were, and are, open with me about such things as how they feel that certain clothing women wear is very disrespectful.
Take "apron" tops for instance.
They aren't as common now as a few years ago, but my oldest son's comment one time to me was: "do they have any idea how tempted we, as males, to just walk up and pull that thin little string? They would be completely topless if we did that!" It's not hard to show grace to your sons in how you dress.
It simply means giving some thought to what you put on.
This isn't some profound new teaching! You can still be trendy, stylish and look great with only a few minor changes.
Wearing shorts that are bit longer and looser.
Tops that cover us when we stand up and when we lean over.
Jeans or leggings paired with longer tops to cover our crotches and behinds.
Face it...
many, if not most, of us do not really have drop- dead gorgeous bodies to be showing every inch of anyway - now do we? Perhaps you do not feel you are "attractive" enough, or have a fit enough body, to be a sexual turn-on.
That is never the case.
Showing off cleavage is always immodest because it causes a male to have to look away or be uncomfortable with where he should be looking.
A male's eyes are always drawn to the soft full cleavage of a woman's breast - or even to that area even if there is no cleavage showing but the thought of breasts is put in their heads.
Let me give you an example of the last scenario.
I am a double-mastectomy survivor.
I followed up my mastectomies with reconstruction, so I do have "breasts" for all intents and purposes.
It used to make me very uncomfortable that when a man would find this out about me, the first place his eyes inadvertantlydarted was to my bust line! Then we would both be embarrassed and share some very awkward moments.
I have since realized they are not doing this to embarrass me - and I need to show grace to him by acting like I didn't notice and continue chatting as if nothing has happened.
He is embarrassed enough and I don't need to add to it.
Why does he do this? Because the idea of a woman's breasts has come up in conversation and he is subconsciously curious about what my "breasts" look like in clothes now that he knows I don't have the breasts I was born with.
If they are tempted to look at that area on me when I am not showing cleavage - how much more when there is cleavage.
Please, don't make the mistake of thinking that your sons are immune from such tendencies.
Show them grace by dressing modestly, it just takes some modifications...
and thought!
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